Do You Expect Perfection In Your Marriage?
How often do you see Hollywood movies or storybooks tell a great story about two people that finally wind up together, and in the end they live happily ever after? Isn’t it interesting that most stories revolve around the couple getting together and so few deal with how they handle their life once they are together?
Getting Together Is The Easy Part, Saving A Marriage Can Be A Challenge
Many people today have a “happily ever after” fantasy that all they need to do is find someone and then when they do, everything will be perfect after that. Getting together is often seen as the problem, and staying together is a piece of cake.
In reality however getting together is usually nowhere near as difficult as actually staying together, and one problem that many couples experience is that they often assume their mate will be perfect. They don’t know how to fix marriage problems and handle disappointments because they think that problems should never exist and that you should never be disappointed or irritated at your spouse in the first place.
Are You Guilty Of Expecting Perfection In Your Marriage?
Ask yourself if perhaps you might be a bit guilty of this. When your spouse does something that bothers you or when there’s a problem, your first tendency is to run away or to get more irritated than you should, simply because you hate that imperfection or flaw in your relationship.
Everyone is imperfect, and that includes you as well! Your spouse did not marry someone perfect, and how do you expect him or her to react when you do something that frustrates or annoys them? Chances are you expect them to get over it and to overlook minor matters, and to openly forgive you for anything more serious.
So are you as forgiving as you expect them to be? Do you overlook minor matters and shrug off the small things?
Do You Need To Fix marriage Problems Or Fix Your Attitude?
If you expected your marriage to be perfect then perhaps you need to rethink your attitude, not your marriage. Expecting too much from a spouse is no way to have a healthy relationship and isn’t fair to your spouse or to you. So if you want to save your marriage , you need to work at overlooking minor matters and at accepting imperfections and realize that these are simply part of life; if you practice this you may find that your relationship is more peaceful and enjoyable than you ever imagined!
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I really wish that my now ex husband would have read this article before just walking away from our relationship. He said he had doubts that I was the right woman for him, and started telling me everything about myself that he did not like. I felt really bad because I accepted all his faults. He told me now that we are broke up that he hopes I will change all the bad things about myself but he hasn’t mentioned making any changes within himself. This article would have helped him to see that no marriage is perfect. Thanks for the post.